I agree that there are competing design goals. Privacy, speed, price.
XMR wins on privacy and price (less than BCH for txn fees) but still has a PoW block wait time (only 2 mins tho)
Less than BCH in transaction fees? Last time I used XMR it was $0.6 for one single transfer
I used monero as a user and developer. UX is pretty bad and it's almost not programmable because of privacy features. It's hard to see it grow when there are no apps except wallets.
Let's be real. Monero has been out since 2014. It will never pass BCH unless something happens where it is SIGNIFICANTLY better than BCH. And right now it's not.